The BEAUTY of Black History

You know, for the longest time I never knew black people in America had a history. “Back in my day” [I can’t believe I’m saying that] they didn’t teach anything at all about black history. There was a little paragraph that said your ancestors were slaves, accompanied by a picture of slaves working in a field. Then we learned about Martin Luther King and Rosa Parks and that was it. I get that people don’t like to talk about slavery but that sent the message that there was No history for blacks. That other than silent workers who never contributed anything meaningful there were only two people in all of black culture who ever did anything of value and that was many years later.

The End.

.Not much of a history lesson. It sent a message that black people never mattered. And that Only white people Did matter. Both blacks and whites received this message.

There is an ancient proverb: Until the Lions have their historians, tales of the hunt shall always glorify the hunter.

Yes, one way Dominant groups inscribe power is by means of the historical record. It’s all Right, such is human nature. Promote thy self and minimize the accomplishments of others.

But now that I was older I decided to investigate myself. And what I discovered gave me a whole new Appreciation for black culture.

You see, contrary to what I was led to believe, black people have a rich, exciting history in this country that is just like any other culture’s history. I don’t mean that every culture had their culture and identities stripped away, but I do mean we have a very rich and colorful history in this country that speaks to our wonderful humanity. Determination, desire, struggles, hopes, highs, lows, love, war, passion, creativity, self expression, teamwork, invention, and inevitably the triumph of the human spirit. Every history book speaks to people being oppressed in various ways and how they always fight back to gain their freedom. From high taxes to strict rules to excessively long work hours to oppressive governments – the injustices abound within history books. Yet, people always find their way back to freedom. ALWAYS.


In the coming weeks, I’m going to share some highlights that Really resonated with me.

And I hope they resonate with you, too.

Black history does not have to be an “us versus them” mentality, always the victim and never the Victor. But it does tell a very human story, One that we can embrace with adoration, love and respect.

If Not Now…Then When?

Open Letter to [Black] People of America

It’s Time. The Healing is Now.

*It’s Time.

Love, Compassion, Healing

Is waiting for You.

Claim it.

I see people have the desire to heal

The DESIRE to….

What is holding you back?

It is within you.

You can feel it.

I can feel it.

Its Time to Let Go.

If not now, then when?

If not You, then Who?

The pain you are feeling is undeniable.

The Love I have for you is Real.

The Love I have for you is Strong.

The Love I have for You is Unwavering.

I would not be here if it weren’t for you.

You have caused me to BECOME the Great Woman that I AM Today.

You have caused me to persevere, to love, to grow, to develop, to keep my eye on the prize

To take pride in who I am

To Love Myself

To Love Unconditionally

To Allow God and Patience and Love and Hope

And PEACE into my life

So that I can Live a Joyful and Fulfilled Life

So that I can be the Best that I can Be

So that I can Honor My Life

So In This Moment I Give Those Words Back To You.

You are Powerful

You are Strong

You are Determined

You are Believed

You are Loved

Let this be the Moment You Let Go

Allow yourself to Receive the Love I have for you,

The Love God Has For You.

Let this Be the Moment You Let Go

Receive the Love that is Already Here Waiting

For You

Let Go.

Let Go.

Let Go.

Let go of the belief that you are hated; You Are Loved.

Let go of the belief that you are less than; You Are MORE than.

Let go of all the pain you’ve been Experiencing

Let go of other people’s opinions.

Let go of insecurity.

Let go…

Let go…

Letting go

And Claim the Sovereignty that is Rightfully Yours.

Your Heritage is One of Beauty and Passion and Love.

Allow yourself to Let it in.

Allow yourself to BELIEVE

Allow yourself to TRUST

Allow yourself to KNOW

Because you Already KNOW Who you are inside.

You already Know.

Allow yourself to not care what other people think

And in that Allowing

You will find your Strength

It is already there waiting for you

To Claim

Will You?

If not now… then when?

If not You… then Who?

With the Warmest Love and Light,


All is fair ….in Love and War

There is a documentary on Nat Turner that interviewed a host of historians as they told the story of one of the most famous slave revolts in american history. An enslaved man named Nat Turner organized a posse and carried out a series of murders, going from plantation to plantation and killing every white person they came across. Every one. Even the children. It was rumored he even went back to kill a baby another person did not have the heart to kill.

In relaying the account, an elderly white historian woman shook her head sadly and said ‘He didn’t have to do that’ in her sad and disapproving way, unable to come to terms with the fruits that negative behavior reaps

And so it was something of a coup

A takeover

Of the interior kind

We have seen this many times throughout history, including in Rome where Shakespeare coined the famous phrase Caesar uttered to his best friend Brutus ‘Et tu Brute? [You too Brutus]’ as he was gutted for his part in a political power struggle. A reminder that in a sea of corruption, who can you really trust?

The practice of killing every person in charge and their family and friends is an age old practice,

Lest one of them many years later decide to seek revenge on you. Or to seize power.

There could be a vicious cycle of recurring avengers so total elimination was practiced to prevent that from happening.

For thousands upon thousands of years, horrible behaviors that reflect exactly where corruption and greed lead to are recounted for us as historical examples, patterns if you would, of how things always turn out.

The law of attraction states that which is likened unto itself is drawn.

So when you put out negativity you simultaneously attract it back to you – like a magnet.

In other words, those events are attracted

because negative emotions that have gained momentum will drive people to behave in erratic and sometimes horrifying ways

Hence the phrase “All Is Fair In Love And War”. In other words, when emotions are high, there are no f&cks given.

So when I saw this woman’s reaction, I wondered if she considered all of the black children and people that were separated from their families, beaten, raped and tortured and how this could drive a person to repeat the same behaviors.

Right back at cha

I don’t think she considered that…but it looked as if nat turner and his associates did,

Which is why the event happened.

Those events, and other slave revolts, both at home and abroad (Jamaica hosting another infamous revolt), contributed to the mental torture southern whites experienced at that time surrounding the permanent enslavement and degradation of people, personal fears that blacks would seek revenge for all the wrongs heaped upon them.

Yes, they had created a monster.

Or Summoned one…

Because the monster was within them

and they were, you could say, trapped

Trapped between their belief systems, their greed, their ego.

After all, How do you build an entire society around the degredation of humanity

That is the very foundation for wealth and power in your world…

…And then just dismantle it?

That was the dilemma that was tossed around for years before slavery ended.

Additionally, the idea of race, and the subsequent racism that followed, was introduced into society and people bought into it. Something had to explain away the horrors of chattel slavery by supposedly civilized people and coming up with a new concept, like “Well….they’re actually not human beings, they are more like the animals….” Was a suitable explanation.

After all, who doesn’t like being told they are special?

The holocaust is another fine example of what happens when the common people are told some of them are more special than others.

But Arrogance does not just uproot itself and walk away so easily

Once the volatility of the situation was fully realized, people were want for change.

What’s interesting is change was wanted by both cultures, black and white.


Change Was Wanted On Both Sides.

White people wanted change.

Congress wanted change because they felt the south had a never ending unfair majority in the House due to their slave population.

New white immigrants coming into the country wanted change because jobs were not available in the south because of the slave population.

Southern whites wanted change (arguably or not) due to what they felt was impending doom pressing in upon them because of their behavior toward the slave population.

Black slaves and freed slaves wanted change for obvious reasons – no one wants to be enslaved forever to anyone.

Thomas Jefferson said of slavery: “I have the wolf by the neck and I can neither sustain him nor let him go.”

And the desire for change COLLECTIVELY bubbled forth and created the change they were wanting.

Even still, of course, change – whether wanted or unwanted – is not so easy to adapt to.

It’s not like a war was won, a law was passed and all of a sudden whites and blacks were smiling and holding hands while running through the flowery meadows…

So it would take many decades, roughly a hundred years, of addressing deeply entrenched social belief systems before the total breakdown of oppressive laws (at least on paper) were willing to be dissolved in America.

Because Change Takes Time…

Change takes time – Both as a nation and as an individual.

But as Neil Armstrong said when he landed on the moon –

That’s one small step for man; one giant leap for mankind”

John Brown and the Underground Railroad

John Brown/The Human Connection

If there is ONE person we have all heard of in black history, who stands out because we actually know who she was and what she did, We are all familiar with the Queen Harriet Tubman, neh Araminta Ross. The details of her story may not be well known but we know “Harriet Tubman” and we know “Underground Railroad” and we know she delivered the enslaved to freedom!

Not only was the Underground Railroad a bold movement of resistance but it was a joint venture between white people and black people who did not agree that enslaving human beings was a good idea.

So why is this article not titled: ‘Harriet Tubman and the Underground Railroad’?

Because this is not a 4th-grade report on black history.

No, there is a much stronger, much more powerful reason.

A few things stood out to me about Activism during the years of American Slavery:

  1. There was Activism during the years of American Slavery.
  2. This was a joint venture between whites and blacks.
  3. John Brown, as well as two of his sons and others believed so strongly in not denying people the right to be free that they laid down their lives for that belief.

As did any white person who participated in the Underground Railroad.

This was treason at the time so both their freedom and their lives were at risk. They placed themselves at risk for fighting back against a society that was conditioned to believe they were superior and enslaving others in such a heinous way was good and right.

We will see this social conditioning of superiority rear its ugly head later in history during the German-Jewish Holocaust; History repeats itself.

While the black story is often told and retold – rather obscurely – it’s important to recognize certain details that speak to the human spirit, because this unites us all.

The case of John Brown was a powerful one Because he led a slave revolt.


Rewind that back.

You heard that right.



slave revolt!

Only he was white.

Now why on EARTH would a white man lead a slave revolt?!?!?!

Because black history is HUMAN history, that’s why.

It was people like John Brown who understood that oppression for some of the people was oppression for ALL of the people. It was simply a matter of time. This is the reason why separation of the people is a big No-No in terms of retaining your individual rights.

In moments of manipulation, that kind of realization is not so readily understood by the populous.

If the people are not united, FOR ANY REASON WHATSOEVER, the likelihood of that same oppression eventually making its way down the pipeline to YOU is simply a matter of time.

Is simply a matter of time.

This is why it is so important that People remain United. Allowing a government to divide people is Never a good idea. Ever. To retain their power they will always create some reason to separate people and we have to be Attuned to that in order to retain Our power.

The power is in the people.

It always has been. It always will be.

As long as the people stay United.      

[No I am not anti-government; we Need government at least in this part of our human journey. But we also bear the responsibility of Joint government as democracy calls far. It is for the people, by the people and in order to make that so, the people need to be actively involved in supporting – not only criticizing – those who bear the responsibility of creating an environment we all want to live in. We are Co-Creators in that, are we not? But That’s another topic for another day]

If there was one lesson I learned from studying the holocaust (and there were many lessons to be learned) it was the dangers of allowing government separation. The educators I was privileged to have made a point of highlighting that importance. They were all Jewish 🙂

John Brown understood this at its core but he is often overlooked in black history as is pretty much any white person who participated in Activism at the time, and there were many. John Brown’s history is black history. Black history is white history because it is HUMAN history.

So because John Brown, as a white man, gave his life for something he believed in – Human Freedom – and because this is the “Cultural Connection” the title is:

John Brown and the Underground Railroad.

He was a part of the Underground Railroad and knew Harriet Tubman. He believed in so much more than “black people should be free”.

He believed A L L people should be free.

And that is important to note.

In every history book, you will find people who are oppressed in a host of ways – all different cultures, “races”, religions, sexes, and you will find a desire to be free and a fight for that freedom.

It is the same with afro-american history.  It is Not different from other people’s history.

We are Not the exception to the rules of humanity as belief systems often present themselves to us that we are. We have our own journey and our own story to tell, but it is a human journey nonetheless and just as equal to and important as anyone else’s story.

WE ARE a stellar example of passion, drive, force and connection in the world of History and in the continuation of expansion.

It is time we see ourselves as such ♥

It is time to Reclaim our Heritage !

Why Was Chattel Slavery Practiced in the U.S. ?

Slavery has a long Human history, never very pleasant for the person on the receiving end and at times downright ugly. And although it is not openly practiced today, it is for sure, a hidden market (Wayfair, ahem).

The type of slavery practiced in the United States (from 1619 to 1865) was known as chattel slavery which referred to the treating of human slaves as property and not human beings. As long as people have been alive they have wanted to exact some sort of control over others. According to the bible [don’t lose me here] the Hebrews were enslaved to the Egyptians for 400 years and the practice got pretty ugly as the number of slaves started to increase. After all, if the slaves continue to outnumber the slave owners, that show might be over sooner than expected. Similarly, the behavior of slavers in america got pretty ugly as time went on for the same reason – Control and a lack of it.

So slavery was not a new concept in the world prior to the new inhabitants’ invasion of the Americas. They were either agreements or punishment for a period of time is how it was practiced in Africa which is where black slaves of the americas came from. Initially, whites and natives were enslaved in america, simply because they were here, but they could run away and at a time when there were little means of tracking – no cameras, videos, or the like existed yet –  the further you were willing to run, the more likely you would never be found. You’d blend into whichever society you resembled the most and freedom was yours.

But in an effort to “maximize profit and minimize cost” as big business is oft to do, the idea of obtaining slaves from africa was presented. Why Africa?

Because there were no black people here; not in droves anyway. So if all of the slaves were black, then their skin would stand out if they ran away, and they could easily be spotted no matter where they ran off to. In other words, if all the black people here had to ‘belong’ to someone then even if they ran away, the likelihood of the investors retaining their profits shot upwards. Cha-Ching!

and the slave trade began.


Before the slave trade began, a group of 19 Africans was brought to america on a trial basis.

These blacks had rights though.

Because blacks were people and had rights. Even as a slave.

This meant their slavery stent would end.

This meant there were other means of removing oneself from slavery, such as marrying your slave master, for example.

Additionally, the individual was the slave, but their children were not.

Things changed but this is how it was at first.

So of course, as time went on, slave agreements would end or people would be removed from slavery in other ways and this was normal for slave ownership.

*Here is where human ‘need for greed’ creeps in. And this is still practiced today so it’s important to take note of how this works.

Businessman 1 would like to maximize profit and minimize cost.

“Ok we tried the African slave thing, it’s a’ight but eventually they get free and we gotta buy new slaves.”

Businessman 2: What if…once we buy a slave they are a slave for life so we never lose slaves, we only keep gaining? Is that possible?

Businessman 1: Anything is possible. Let me call my friend in Congress to get a law passed.

Businessman 2: How much will that cost?

Businessman 1: Don’t worry about it. It’s a done deal.

And this is the way human slavery in America progressively turned to chattel slavery (treating humans like property with no rights)

I believe all beings including animals should be free, but I digress.

So it was not that way at the start, but every time a black person sued in court for their slave stent to end or married their master or whatever other means to remove themselves from slavery, a law was passed the following year that said:

Actually, you are enslaved for life.

Actually, you are no longer allowed to marry your master.

Actually, you cannot marry any white person ever.

Actually, even your kids are enslaved as well.

Actually, they are enslaved for life as well.

Actually, you can never sue in court if you’re not treated right.

And on and on, new laws being created to progressively limit the rights of the enslaved until it turned into slaves were slaves for life, and so were their children, and they were no longer human (that was a law too).

And since their home base was a long way away, Who could they complain to?

Ahh, the devil was crouching at their door and they decided to open it and greet him with wide-open arms.

But they forgot one thing.

“They buried us but didn’t know we were seeds”

In other words, You cannot keep the human spirit down. Not for long anyway.

And that burning desire for freedom, that burning desire for justice (and in some cases retribution because let’s face it: alls fair in love and war) proved to be a tumultuous relationship between the enslavers and the enslaved.

Thomas Jefferson said it best regarding slavery: I have the wolf by the throat but I can neither sustain him nor let him go…

Ramadan the ReMix LOG Discipline, Introspection, Focus


It’s important to analyze the challenges, potential challenges and WHY something isn’t working so we can be successful in our journey. It’s very important to me that I follow this to completion. On Sunday I attended a spiritual workshop which was the perfect prelude to Ramadan. I decided to share part of my daily log that I utilize to keep myself on track. Much Love to You

Monday –          

AM       ♥ 10 mins Breathing

          ♥ Open Focus

            ♥ Sun Salutation, Exercise

Observances:    The morning was great; I felt really empowered. I brought water with me to drink all day. I removed one item from the morning routine and I’m very comfortable with the practice above.

For lunch – one note – I packed waaay too much food – a large salad, two red potatoes, 2 black bean burger patties, a pulled mozzarella ball and 2 peaches. I knew I packed too much but lack of preparation led me to throw random things in my bag the next morning (literally one giant lettuce leaf, a handful of arugala, 3 mini peppers, a stalk of cilantro) because I didn’t feel like cooking the night before. I didn’t finish all of the salad. So tomorrow scale way back.

The heater under my desk was removed, which was good because it kept me “glued” to my desk (obstacle). God removed this obstacle for me; I strongly doubt I would have done that on my own, lol. I thought of the heater often throughout the day but I got up to move my body to keep warm ☺. It is beneficial, though slightly uncomfortable, to not have it there, but when establishing new habits, a little discomfort is necessary.

PM       ♥ Breathing

♥ Open Focus

♥ Stretch

♥ Read

I fell a little flat in the evening. I wanted to eat out of habit or boredom. I felt into my body and I was not hungry at all. I wouldn’t have eaten regardless but it was easier to kill the idea to eat when I realized I wasn’t even hungry. I felt myself really, really sleepy. I sat on my yoga mat and started doing the habitual b*llsh*t  things I normally do that keep me scattered. I stopped myself. I started to do a moon salutation but my body was so resistant I stopped halfway through and remembered sometimes I get really sleepy in the evenings. I analyzed what was most important to me to practice each evening and I crossed off moon salutation. What I accomplished for the night is what is listed above. If anything comes out of this discipline, it must be the practices above so although I had other things to do, I allowed my body to fall asleep. This ended up being a good thing because it caused me to revise my night routine. I played my Tibetan singing bowl which helped to clear my mind (I had a bit of scattered energy), I burned a candle, practiced open focus and I fell asleep. When I awoke, it was way later than I intended. I decided I had to show up for myself so I did 10 minutes of deep breathing and read. I decided to divide my book up and read a chapter each night and I’ll be done in 7 days. I went to bed around 2am though…

So this is only Day 1, not bad. I definitely feel empowered, that’s for sure. And I didn’t practice any self-deprecating words like “you’re not doing enough” because my most important things are accomplished and I decided these will remain a part of my daily practice no matter what happens and my body and mind need time to adjust.  I decided the benefit of waking up early is I can complete the practices above while practicing discipline. Then, if I need to sleep later on, at least those most important things are already done. That really resonated with me.

Day 2     Tuesday

The rest of the world will be observing Ramadan starting today. This morning I felt super sleepy and it was difficult awakening. I gave myself a few minutes to rest and decided to show up for myself and start my breathing practice.

It awakened me enough to move forward into open focus practice. Then I did sun salutation but the only exercise I did was releves and squats. Well, something beats a blank. I packed my lunch and water and was off to work.

*of note, I was guided to eat an apple each morning so I decided at the last minute to add an apple and tea into my morning routine. I don’t particularly want to, as I’m quite comfortable not eating breakfast, but during this timeframe I will do as instructed. I had 1 or 2 slices left over from yesterday’s slices and drank my tea. Then I was off.

Lunch went much better than yesterday. I still had too much food though. I ate a large bowl of pasta and a yam and some arugala and cilantro. I feel the need to have less food so I’ll try again tomorrow. I’m also being guided to have less starchy foods so I’ll focus on lentils or beans, greens, plain oatmeal. I want to have a comfortable lunch and not feel too full. Onward.

This evening. I had some posting to do. Now NORMALLY if I’m doing a spiritual program or something like this I “check out” from the world and just focus on myself, but THIS time I was guided to find joy in this experience so I’m attempting to keep as much normalcy as possible while still maintaining my routine. So far it’s ok. A little scary in the mornings and during the day and in the evenings. Honestly, the “scary” is the thought of me having a moment of weakness and “failing”. I decided if I “fail” I’ll just keep going. It’s like if I’m walking down the street and trip and fall. I’ll get back up, I won’t lay there.

A text message came through today that my neighbor, who caters, is cooking dinners again and if I wanted to order something. I normally do since her food is the bomb.com, but not now because I also gave up fish. Awwwwwww maaaaaan she had catfish (she never has thaaaat!!!!) mac n cheese ( whoooweeee) and yams topped with marshmallow {saliva dripped down face}. But I’m not having fish, cheese or sugary things unless its fruit.

But SIKE! I aint fallin for dat. I’m good. DUH-LETE.

Tryna trick me! It’s only day 2! I mean damn

Well its outta my system. I CAN DO this. I’m a mexiCAN, not a mexiCANT!


Ramadan – the ReMix

Disclaimer:  I’m not muslim, but I will celebrate Ramadan this year.

I’ve only fasted one time in my life and it was a spur of the moment thing. I was in a spiritual program and the host mentioned he had fasted and his diet was compromised when he moved in with other people. The program was Not about fasting but when he mentioned it, I wondered why I never tried fasting?

Oh because I love food, that’s why.                                                                            

So in all my years, the thought to fast never even crossed my mind. It so happened on the day I decided to fast, I had not eaten yet, had eaten late the night before and was off from work for the next 3 days. So I said ‘no time like the present’ and decided to go for it. I asked my peeps about fasting online since I had no idea what it looked like and wanted to know if I could still exercise or if there were some special precautions I had to take (I really had no idea) and I was told by people who fasted I could do everything I normally do.

So I did. I drank water all day (as I normally do) and I took herbal medicine (as I normally do) and that was it. Part of my motivation for fasting was to heal my gut (very long story, too long for this post) and part of my motivation for fasting was to deepen my spiritual connection.

My fast accomplished both things. My last meal was on a Thursday night and the next time I ate was late Monday morning or Monday at lunchtime, I don’t remember. During this time I realized my gut was processing food at a slow rate and I also had “all the time in the world”. It was like I was off for a week when it was only 3 days. I did my spiritual program, I went food shopping, I did door dashing, I exercised, I read – it was a beautiful 3 days and hard to believe it was only 3 days! I learned a lot about myself through the spiritual program I was in and through meditation and I wanted to do it again.

I wasn’t hungry the entire time (possibly due to the slow food processing) and didn’t hear my stomach grumble until late Sunday or Monday. It was healing and therapeutic and freeing and a beautiful experience.

And I wanted to do it again

But since that time I failed miserably at fasting. And I know why (mainly):

I’m a stress eater

And when I’m at work –  I stress Eat. All. Day. Long. I eat crackers, granola bars and the like but its constant, in other words, im not giving my body a chance to rest, a chance to stop processing food so it can focus exclusively on repair work.

Enter Ramadan.

Last year I got in my mind to celebrate Ramadan but I didn’t know anything about it and I didn’t do it.

This year is here, however, and I’m ready.

I’ve learned that Ramadan is a dedication period to celebrate divine inspiration (I am not muslim, so that is how I interpret “the revelation of the koran to the prophet mohammed”) and I appreciate that there is time set aside to reflect on the help that God gives us at the right time to assist us in our journey, divine inspiration being one aspect of the Most Holy.

That being said – I’m scared sh*tless. I have never fasted for a month. If I was home I don’t think I would have this reaction, but I’m not going to be home for the bulk of it, I’m going to be at work and without the food crutch to escort me through my day I am fearful of if I can do it and how it will affect me.

So in all things we must make it our own. This is how to “embody”. There are many ways to fast, and fasting during Ramadan includes early breakfast before dawn and dinner after sundown, which to me means it’s just a fast from lunch. But it also includes No Food, No Drink during the day and No Sex during the entire 30 day period.

I will not follow this type of fast because my body does not want to eat dinner and often does not want to eat breakfast and I have to follow what my body wants. For me, the fast will be lunch only each day, no breakfast, no dinner, no “snacks” and I will continue drinking water as usual.

I Have Clear Focus on Why I’m doing this fast:

♥To heal my body and to deepen my connection with source energy through Discipline.

I have Clear intentions on the outcomes of this fast and that includes modifying what I’m putting into my body at this time to aid in the work. For me, I will relinquish Cheese. And eat green foods daily.

Even as I say this I am welling up with tears

For the cheese,

That I love.

I will also continue to understand the nature of Ramadan, as it coincides with moon sightings, so I will seek to deepen my understanding of God’s creation of the moon in relation to our bodies.

I will practice discipline and learn to be in a space of displeasure and Not reach for food as a means of getting me through emotional turmoil.

I will seek out other ways to be Strong instead. What they are I don’t know yet, but I have a few ideas.

I will continue to practice daily gratitude and appreciation for all things and for the space to perform this fast.

And – it just popped into my head – I will continue to be joyful???

… I will ?


That might be a stretch… I mean this whole thing scares the hell out of me but I can see how beneficial it is for me to go there. So I’ll do it and ill read these words each day so I can remember to find some joy in this.

Since the idea of this 30 day discipline is super scary, I will just do what I know to do: Take.One.Day.At.A.Time.

Day one starts Monday (for me). Most other people will probably start Tuesday evening as the actual day is based on the sighting of the crescent moon, the very beginning of a moon cycle.

Happy Ramadan!

Ramadan Kareem (Have a Generous/Noble/Honorable Ramadan month)!

Ramadan Mubarak (Have a Blessed month of Ramadan)!

Do you celebrate Ramadan? How is it for you?

Well, Social Media is “Social”…

Observations: Posting on social media

Inspired by a video I reposted on whether homosexuality was a choice and a separate video I watched on male circumcision & its appropriateness in our (american) society. The vlogger was very angry that male circumcision happens. He was circumcised, did Not circumcise his children but remained extremely angry that it exists, calling circumcision “chopping up a dick” and compared it to female genital mutilation (aka female circumcision).

I made a comment exploring the why (repetitive habit from an old custom) and a person’s personal choice and why it does not Need to be a big deal to be Uncircumcised save for “not fitting into society”. It is a personal choice and no one else’s business.

observations about others:

  1. people who are accustomed to being victimized – this is the go-to mind set. If I pose a question, and a person is sensitive to the TOPIC, they could respond on the defense or negatively, without listening to the discussion because they Anticipate a negative response, even if there isn’t one. This requires sensitivity when responding.
  2. your vibe attracts your tribe. and there will always be resonance for either good or bad, positive or negative energy that is expressed.
  3. people do not read or do not read in its entirety.
  4. especially if a long comment is posted, people tend to react to the first sentence or two assuming they know what the entire paragraph says (could either be laziness or sensitivity and/or arguably just a defense for the person they agree with who posted the video).
  5. speculation surrounding if they actually have an opinion other than the one presented to them, or if because they like the person, they defend the person.
  6. when people are emotionally charged up that will create an environment where they become irrational, even make up your responses, that were never said, and assume your characteristics, that they have no idea about, simply because you didn’t Immediately agree, or had some other perspective that was rational. *I will add there is nothing wrong with being angry. We have emotions for a reason. However, uncontrolled anger, unseated anger, could cause us to be irrational, which keeps us stuck with no resolution to our problems.
  7. one person said I never experienced oppression (my picture is reflected next to my name) —– ok. I am well accustomed to stereotypes, but that is a new one, lol. First time for everything…
  8. there were only a few responses, maybe 8 or so in total including mine. my response had 3 negative responses (meaning they were very angry). there were a couple of other responses, all by men, except for one woman who also gave a rational, unbiased approach, to which I liked her comment. But I wondered if in general men have more male audience members and if females have more female audience members…just curious…and if those sexes are then reimagined in some way into “taking sides”. I wondered this because someone mentioned my being a woman, and assumed I had Disagreed, possibly based on the separation and dysfunction of the sexes as another factor.

observations about myself:

  1. do I typically post a comment disagreeing with someone? If I feel I need to speak my truth, yes. it is about equal. also I don’t post hot-headed responses, because how does that help anything?
  2. I was surprised at the negative responses, mainly because the orator was spiritual and I assumed the audience would be rational or open-minded. it was the kind of reaction I would expect elsewhere on social media, so that gave me food for thought
  3. I was reminded that we all have different awarenesses and that our vibe attracts our tribe on Any and Every awareness level. It does NOT depreciate a person’s value or spirituality. Who can play God better than He Himself? So I will leave that to Him
  4. I am grateful for a newfound community that I truly feel at home with. We have open, healthy discussions and are aware enough to understand that we all have different truths and everything is the all. we learn from each other.

I did not respond to any of the negative comments because it was not my page and what would I respond other than comments that would be sarcastic, lol, because the people with negative comments didn’t read mine in its entirety. The takeaway? My observations above. Would I do anything differently? No. I stand behind my words completely. They were balanced, open, practical from my perspective and left room for everyone to embrace who they are without judgement – if read in its entirety. As for the person who felt he was oppressed (his word, not mine), a forever victim because of societal judgment on Uncircumcised men, people who need approval from the masses will forever be victimized by that desire. At times we just need the right perspective, presented in the right way, by the right person for us as an individual. That video was definitely not that, it only fed into anger that “society” doesn’t accept things. My comment was also not that, probably too long for some people to bear. Maybe one day he-we-they- will find that perspective and if open to it, assume it. Maybe not. That is part of the individual journey.

Keep Rising

Keep Thriving

Keep Loving

the Power is in the People

Much Love,


Is CHEESE Racist?

there is a popular sub shop in central nj, so popular there are two locations. Occasionally I enjoy a good sub there and one of my favorites is a simple turkey and cheese. but not any cheese – yellow american, in particular, is my favorite combination with turkey. plain, simple, no frills, no lettuce, no tomatoes, just mayo, salt, pepper, turkey, cheese — yellow cheese.

                over the course of years, every time I go to this sub shop there is no yellow american cheese, only white american cheese and white american just doesn’t have the flavor profile that I enjoy with turkey. Now I love all cheese, a lot. A whole lot. But I don’t care for white american because it doesn’t really taste like anything. maybe I’ve never had white american cheese on the appropriate food item to bring out its (in my opinion) rather bland flavor? Who knows? Either way, because it doesn’t enhance anything for me, I don’t include it on anything. So there we have it.

                after years of settling for an uninspiring turkey sandwich from this sub shop, the next time I went there I told myslef, ‘You know, every time I come here they never have yellow american cheese and I don’t want to settle anymore because I really want what I want. So, if they don’t have it – again – I’m not coming here anymore’. I figured they just always ran out and by the time I got there they were out of it. Even though I always went in the afternoon around lunch time? But I never really thought that deeply about it.

                so I enter the sub shop, wait my turn, ask for a turkey and yellow american cheese and they told me, as usual, they only have white american. So I asked, ‘are you OUT of it?’ to which the woman said “We only have white american”, so me trying to understand why the deli place doesn’t have yellow cheese, which I thought was the most basic cheese there is, I questioned further… ‘I really want turkey with yellow american. Do you EVER have yellow american cheese in stock? to which she replied “We only have white american”.


actually it took me back like that guy eating his favorite childhood dish from the movie Ratatouille, only I didn’t flash back to a happy place in my childhood, I flashed back to a scene from the comedic movie “Life” with Eddie Murphy and Martin Lawrence: “White Only Pies”

“These are white only pies” a woman told the duo who walked into a diner where negroes were not welcome.

“We only have white american”

…*sigh*…. really? are we doing this? this is what we’ve come to? what, yellow cheese is too “asian” for you? [I didn’t say any of this, nor did I feel slighted since I live in a thriving food district]

so I said ‘oh I really wanted yellow, oh well thanks’….and left

thanks but no thanks. you know, I’m perfectly fine spending my money someplace a little more “cheese friendly”.

from the movie: ‘’Well how far is the nearest rest stop? … 35 miles!”

well I don’t live in a remote place in the country so I don’t have to go 35 miles to get to the nearest deli shop, maybe 2, so I’m very thankful I have options.

                i believe we’re better than this. I have noticed sometimes black people going a little too far perhaps with “black everything” in an effort to appreciate our culture even more…black car, black clothes, black on black on black. While to each his own, I know we can appreciate our respective cultures without bringing food and other inanimate items into the equation…cant we? I mean why does cheese have to suffer? Isn’t yellow cheese American too? I mean asserting your power with white on white on white….lawdy. oh lawdy. oh well, I guess if black people can do it…..

i think we (humans) are just a wee bit sensitive once we start bringing colored items into the equation. maybe we’re just a little sensitive, once we start claiming all “black” items that exist in the world as ours and white people start claiming all “white” items that exist in the world as theirs.

i mean with that philosophy they must love when it snows, because I guess that means they have God’s blessing since its snowing “white” from the heavens…

and a black person could argue “Well God blesses us every single night with a black sky but now the white people try to take whats rightfully ours by infusing our black sky with white light…

yes, im being facetious

and I really, really hope no one is offended by the references above

because I do not want to offend anyone. I honor everyone in love

But sometimes we just have to laugh at our own behavior.

I desire us all to be a little less sensitive.

and its not just because I want a good turkey and cheese sammich.

its because if we can stop looking outside of ourselves for “power” and “justice”

and we begin to look within ourselves at the power we already possess within our God Given dna,

we will be so much happier

because that is where our power lies

within each and every one of us

and within our unity together

Much love to all of the white people and all of the black people who feel the need to surround themselves with colored items to define their self-worth and value.

I see you, I value you and I love you. you are truly powerful, no matter what shade of cheese you are.

#onelove, #onehumanity, #thepowerisinthepeople

P.S. I invite you to take the journey within by listing 5 things you absolutely LOVE about yourself and just One step you can take to improve your own life. We are both the Masterpiece and the Work In Progress At the Same Time. Let’s work on Progress Together ♥

Rest to Success: Zen Momentum

The Premise Behind this mental health break is “Take this job and shove it” very nicely, “you know where”

and in the process of moving toward That goal: I will fully Acknowledge and Embrace the Reality that I Design My Life

(As an adult, I have FULL CONTROL over the things I WILL and will not do. This means, in no uncertain certain terms, I walked up in this b*tch and I can walk the f*k up out!) ok. Now that That has been established – I have the urge to JUMP, yes, but let’s be practical here, If I Have to Jump – and I Have To – I will bring a parachute with me, I will study ‘how to’ exactly jump, and maybe bring a snack? yeah I’ll do my due diligence so that the Jump will be less daunting.

Enter in my ASAP need for a break RIGHT NOW!!! revealed to me as I loudly banged on the cabinet at the desk I sat at in the belly of the beast. TOTALLY out of character for me! but *A Sign* so I took it…

Today starts my Zen Momentum: 7 Days of Bliss, I Design My Life. Rest to Success – NO KIDS ALLOWED Edition

What exactly is this exotic tangle of wordage?

I fully recognize the life sucking soul devouring j.o.b. I’ve been working and the need to move on to Greener pastures. For me, this will mean moving onto entrepreneurship of some sort. I must work from home and I must do the things I enjoy doing. Until then, I will not take on another soul zapping j.o.b. I will patiently work toward my goals. Now is the time to Embrace the Now.

working in the belly of the beast is f’n exhasut-ING and when I get home I am exhaust-ED. I work on my spiritual refinement each day but it is abundantly clear to actively Work toward fulfilling my soul’s desires to be FREE. I mean, we all have to work/struggle in some aspect, so why not do work that I enjoy?

So, I designed a beautiful Zen plan of [further] action that will be to both Rest and Success, that encompasses my mind, body and spirit because I’m doing what I love. BTW there is NO WAY to be unSuccessful at this, when you are honoring your soul’s desires.

and working toward my ultimate goal at the same time, which is to honor by soul’s desires All Day Long ♥

Day 1 –

                Before we get to day 1, actually I like to Prepare. I made a sign “MOM is CLOSED until further notice”

and on the flip side “You’re an “Adult” – Figure it Out”

and taped it to my door

ok yeah, no it didn’t work, but it put me in the right mindset.

Moving right along…I also prepped Exactly what I hoped to accomplish in this 7 days

Spirit      1. Emotional Mastery           because my peace of mind is my most important asset

Body      2. Stretch My Body             because my physical prowess is my most valuable asset

Body      3. Diet                          because my Health is my most valuable asset

Spirit      4. Plan your Exit Strategy              because my Soul is my Most Valuable Asset

Mind     5. Read Each Day                             because I like reading

Spirit      6. Look for Volunteer Opportunities    because I haven’t volunteered in a long time

Spirit     7. Start my new YT channel               because I want to express appreciation for people who feel unappreciated

That’s a lot to accomplish in only 7 days, so realistically I set to accomplish 1 Main thing that I absolutely Must get done on each of the days, while Focusing on fulfulling my daily spiritual routine that keeps me sane

I’m just chronicling this journey because it feeds my soul as I have the urge to write and this is helping me keep things focused and organized

I hope it helps someone else as well.

Tuesday Day 1:


Deep Breathing

Meditate with intention

Sun Salutation

Deep Stretch

Om Stretch


Hair/Skin/Nails Spa Day


Emotional Mastery Program


sacral chakra meditation




deep stretch

Recap of today

Welllllllllll…. it went well. Don’t forget, there is no way to fail at this as long as I’m honoring my soul.

So the kid I live with totally disregarded the “Mom is closed” sign from the moment I put it up and it seemed to encourage her even more to be in my space. That’s ok, I’ll just utilize the lock on my door next time.

I did my morning routine, then I escaped to the park for a beautiful walk in what turned out to be a very beautiful day. it was so peaceful. a lot of people out walking their dogs. One very tall and handsome man made a point to stare at me in the face as I basked in the sun, listening to my spiritual video, and said a pointed ‘hello’, to which I thought (damn I should have put chapstick on!) and then nicely said ‘Good morning’. it was a 36 minute walk. then back home to stretch.

So a note on the stretching – I reconfigured my living room into a Zen space so there is no couch. Instead, there is a foam floor covering over the hardwood floors, that we use to stretch and reflect and its super cozy. So cozy, Zoe, our rabbit roommate, claimed it as hers and doesn’t really want anyone else on it. She’s either pacing back and forth across the mat or standing on the corner of the mat the whole time I’m on it and sometimes, accidentally I’m sure, bites me while I’m in downward dog pose. Today though, aside from her marching over to the mat as soon as I got on it, she was pretty chill about letting me use it; she even went into her box and didn’t stare at me the entire time. SO I discovered the late morning is a good time to use the mat without being stalked or harassed or bitten. Good Discovery.

                So back to the stretching – it was a beautiful full body stretch from my scalp (massage) to my toes and then I took a nap and then the spirit moved me to start writing and then the spirit moved me to do a powerpoint presentation and then there were technical difficulties but it is all good. I deviated a bit from my week’s schedule but when energy flows in a given direction, I like to ride the wave. It’s more satisfying. I still have to do my emotional mastery program and “spa day” tonight but its only 9pm and also I feel really good about what I accomplished today. Zen day 1.  

Oh and I didn’t wake up at 5am. I left my cell phone outside my bedroom and woke up at 6am but it was still all good.

How could it not be?

I Love and I want You to Love.

Much Love,